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Time to transform

1:1 coaching for women healing from anxiety and learning to trust themselves again. You're ready to build a life grounded in security, not fear.

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You're standing at a crossroads.

Maybe you're walking away from a relationship that no longer lights you up, but anxiety whispers that you're making a mistake. Maybe you're questioning everything you thought you wanted, realising you need to start fresh, but fear is paralysing you.

Maybe a relationship ended or never felt right, and you're grieving while being flooded with self-doubt. Whatever your version of 'starting over' looks like, one thing is clear: You're tired of letting anxiety make your decisions. You're ready to feel genuinely secure in your choices.

But here's the truth about restarting, it's terrifying, lonely, and messy. And when anxiety is running the show, it feels impossible to do alone.

That's where I come in

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I've restarted over more times than I can count and each time, anxiety nearly stopped me:

  • Ended a 10-year relationship and called off my wedding while battling self-doubt about whether I was making a huge mistake.

  • Left another 3-year relationship when every anxious voice told me to stay, that I'd regret it. Walked away from my corporate career after a decade while terrified about security and stability.

  • Moved countries, became a digital nomad, built new businesses and communities, each time learning to soothe my nervous system instead of letting fear dictate my choices.

Each time, I had to let go of who I thought I was supposed to be, quiet the anxiety, and trust that the woman I was becoming was worth the leap. The difference? I learned that security doesn't come from circumstances, it comes from trusting yourself. And now... I help women do the same.

My story

What makes this different from therapy?

Therapy helps you process the past. Coaching helps you build a secure, confident future where anxiety no longer drives your decisions.

Don't get me wrong I'm a huge advocate for therapy (I've been in and out of it since I was 19). But what coaching offers that therapy often doesn't is:

Forward momentum

From living in fear to taking purposeful action

Accountability & support

Someone who understands your anxiety and holds you accountable to your healthier self

Compassionate challenge

Gentle but firm guidance away from anxious patterns and toward genuine self-trust

Actionable strategies

Practical ways to calm your nervous system and build lasting confidence

Clarity through the chaos

Finding clarity when everything feels overwhelming

This isn't about fixing you. You're not broken.
This is about guiding you through one of life's most vulnerable transitions with someone who's walked the path and come out stronger on the other side.

Who is 1:1 coaching for?

  • You're ready to stop letting anxiety make your relationship decisions

  • You're ready to feel secure enough to make bold life changes

  • You're ready to trust yourself instead of repeating anxious patterns

  • You're ready to feel genuinely grounded and safe, even in uncertainty

  • You're ready to stop people-pleasing and start self-protecting

  • You're ready to trust your own judgment and move forward with confidence

  • Your anxiety is sabotaging your relationships and life choices, and you're ready to break that pattern

  • You want to feel secure and confident again instead of constantly second-guessing yourself"

  • You're healing from anxious attachment and ready to build secure, healthy patterns

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What we’ll work on together

Every coaching journey is unique to you, but here's what we typically explore:

Emotional regulation & nervous system healing

Learning to soothe your anxiety, regulate your emotions, and feel safe in uncertainty

Breaking toxic patterns

Understanding why you sabotage and creating secure, healthy choices instead

Rebuilding your identity

Discovering who you are beyond the anxiety that's been running your life

Setting boundaries with love

Learning to honour your needs without guilt or fear of abandonment

Creating clarity & direction

Trusting yourself enough to know what you actually want

Cultivating self-trust

Developing the confidence to make decisions and handle whatever comes

Moving through grief & letting go

Honouring what was while stepping securely into what's next

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Programs

Breaking the cycle

For when you're ready to understand why you keep repeating the same pattern

This is for the woman who recognises her anxiety is driving her relationship. You're caught in cycles of self-doubt, fear of abandonment, and people-pleasing and you're exhausted. You know something needs to change, but you don't know where to start.

This is for you if:

  • Your anxiety shows up as needing constant reassurance, questioning your partner's feelings, or fear of being left

  • You sabotage good things because deep down you don't believe you're worthy

  • You abandon yourself trying to keep others happy, and then resent them for it

  • You're tired of making decisions from a place of fear instead of clarity

  • You want to finally understand where this anxiety came from and how to rewire it

  • You want to stop begging, overgiving, chasing love

What we work on:

  • Soothing your nervous system so anxiety stops driving your choices

  • Understanding the root of your anxious patterns and why they served you once

  • Breaking the cycle of seeking external validation and learning to trust yourself instead

  • Building genuine self-worth that isn't dependent on anyone else's approval

  • Creating secure attachment patterns that feel safe and sustainable

Format: 1-1 sessions with bi-weekly sessions
Duration: 4 months

Restarting Over

For when you've done the healing work and are ready to build from a place of security

This is for the woman who has started understanding her anxiety patterns and is now ready to rebuild her life, her identity, her career, her relationships from a grounded, secure place. You've processed some of the grief, you're beginning to trust yourself again, and now you need structure and momentum to create the life you actually want.

This is for you if:

  • You've left or are leaving a relationship, career, or identity that no longer serves you

  • You're ready to stop letting fear make your decisions and start trusting your own judgment

  • You know what needs to change, but you need support and accountability to actually do it

  • You want to rebuild your identity and sense of self outside of what you've outgrown

  • You're committed to creating a life that feels genuinely yours, not what you think you "should" want

What we work on:

  • Clarifying what you actually want (not what anxiety thinks is safe)

  • Rebuilding your identity and reconnecting with who you are when fear isn't running the show

  • Taking aligned action toward the life you're creating, with confidence

  • Setting boundaries that honor your needs without guilt or fear

  • Moving through grief and loss while building momentum toward your future

  • Cultivating the self-trust to handle whatever comes next

Format: 1-1 sessions with monthly 90-minute sessions
Duration: 4 months

Healing together

For when you and your partner are ready to understand each other’s triggers and build secure love together

For when both of you are stuck in cycles of conflict fuelled by anxious and avoidant attachment dynamics. You feel disconnected, misunderstood, or stuck in the same arguments. You love each other but don't know how to break the pattern. Together, over 4 months, Will and I will help you both understand why these dynamics show up, learn each other's needs, and build the secure, healthy relationship you both deserve.

This is for you if:

  • One or both of you have an anxious attachment style and the other has avoidant tendencies

  • You find yourselves in repeating cycles of conflict, one pursues while the other withdraws, or you both shut down

  • You're triggered by your partner's behaviour and struggle to communicate without defensiveness or blame

  • You love each other but feel emotionally disconnected or like you're speaking different language

  • You want to stop the blame game and start understanding the real fears underneath the arguments

  • You're ready to do the work together to build a secure

What we work on:

  • Understanding each partner's attachment triggers and how they show up in the relationship

  • Learning to recognise and break the pursue-withdraw or shutdown cycles

  • Developing empathy for your partner's underlying fears and needs

  • Building secure communication patterns that create safety and closeness

  • Creating conflict resolution strategies that honour both partners' needs

  • Rebuilding trust and emotional intimacy after repeated hurt cycles

  • Establishing new relationship patterns based on secure attachment

Format: 1-1 sessions (each person) and joint 2-2 sessions (together)
Duration: 4 months

How it works

Program:

Select the program post clarity call

Sessions:

Bi-weekly or Monthly (depending on the program) via GoogleMeet

Support between sessions:

Whatsapp or email access for questions, moments of doubt, or breakthrough insights

Personalised tools & resources:

Custom journal prompts, visualisations, and practices tailored to your journey

Accountability & structure:

We'll set intentions, track progress, and celebrate wins together

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Love, I know how scary it is to invest in yourself when everything feels uncertain, especially when anxiety keeps telling you that you're making a mistake. But here's what I've learned from my own journey and from working with 50+ women: The women who thrive aren't the ones who had it all figured out or conquered their anxiety overnight. They're the ones who got support, showed up for themselves even when fear screamed at them to stay safe, and learned to trust themselves instead of the anxiety. You don't need to silence your anxiety. You don't need to be 'ready.' You just need to take the first step and let me help you find your footing. And I promise, I'll be right there with you, helping you move from afraid to secure.

A note from Ell

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  • "I began working with Ell in June when I was seeking a fresh start in my 30s. After a long-term unfulfilling marriage, I lacked confidence and struggled to express my needs. Ell's emphasis on self-discovery resonated deeply with me, leading to a significant boost in my confidence. Her methods helped me leave a difficult situation and trust my intuition. Friends and family have noticed my transformation; I have matured and am no longer reliant on relationships for validation. I'm exploring new interests, feeling empowered, and I now understand my worth in love. I learned to set healthy boundaries and honor my needs, emerging stronger and more self-respecting than ever before, thanks to Ell's guidance. I went from being insecure and sacrificing my needs to confidently honoring them and realizing my independence. Ell's insights have empowered me to explore new interests and understand my worth in love, as I now prioritize self-love and establishing healthy boundaries."

    Stacee, Washington, US

  • "Working with Ell during the 12-week program has truly transformed my perspective on life and my approach to love. Before I started, I struggled with incredibly low self-esteem and kept chasing love from my ex, someone who no longer loved me. I didn't value myself enough to let go of the past, and it left me feeling lost and unworthy. Ell helped me rebuild my self-worth by guiding me through practices that have allowed me to reconnect with myself. Through journaling, meditation, and incorporating movement into my daily routine, I've learned to love myself more deeply and consistently. These tools have been life-changing, giving me the space to reflect and My mindset has shifted drastically, and I now see life with a much more positive outlook. I feel empowered, strong, and confident -like a whole person, capable of standing tall as a single woman. I've learned that being single doesn't mean I'm incomplete; it's a phase where I'm continuing to grow and nurture my own value. Navigating the dating scene now feels different. I've grown in my confidence and self-worth, knowing that I deserve a partner who sees my value and respects who I am, without expecting me to sacrifice my identity or compromise my boundaries. I'm no longer afraid of being alone, because I know I am capable of loving and being loved in the right way."

    Maria, New York

  • "I am beyond grateful for the life coaching I've received, and I can't fully express just how much I've transformed since our very first call. When I initially reached out, I was struggling deeply with heartbreak and felt completely lost, with no sense of purpose. I was battling suicidal thoughts, drowning in alcohol to numb the pain, and overwhelmed by emotions that felt out of control. At that time, I honestly didn't know how I was going to get through each day. Now, I'm a completely different person...a better version of the person I was just before and in the early stages of my relationship with HI I've found my purpose again and wake up every day with a clear sense of direction. My confidence has soared, and I feel so much stronger emotionally. I've developed goals that drive me forward, and each day now feels like an opportunity to move closer to those goals with excitement and passion. I've experienced days of genuine happiness-something I never thought I'd feel again-and this has been such a profound shift."

    Sophie, London

  • "The work we've done together has helped me heal from the past while discovering a renewed sense of joy and hope for the future. Your support has been a game changer for me—not only in terms of personal growth but also professionally. The way you've helped me break down my career and business ideas into manageable steps has been invaluable. What once seemed like an insurmountable mountain of tasks now feels like a series of achievable steps. You've helped me focus on what truly matters, allowing me to move forward with my business plan and even take action on tasks that once terrified me. Your coaching has made everything seem not only possible but exciting. I feel incredibly supported, and there's a genuine investment in seeing me flourish and succeed. After every call, I walk away feeling refreshed, motivated, and ready to tackle whatever challenges come my way. You've nurtured my dreams and ambitions, and for the first time, I truly believe I can make this business idea work."

  • "I wanted to say a huge thank you to you. Thank you, that you had such a big positive impact on me in my healing journey and thank you for being there when I was so down with all this breakup this year. I really appreciate you and think often back of the time with a big smile and just a grateful heart. Your kindess and words mean a lot to me and helped me to get through the hardest times this year."

    Jessie, Germany

  • "Thank you for helping me find the strength to turn my life around. I feel empowered, focused, and more in control of my emotions than ever before. I'm no longer just surviving-I'm thriving. And it's all because of the unwavering support, guidance, and encouragement you've given me."

  • If you're reading this, you're ready. You don't need to have conquered your anxiety or have it all figured out, you just need to be willing to show up for yourself even when anxiety tells you to stay safe, and do the courageous work of rewiring your patterns. Readiness isn't about feeling confident; it's about being tired of letting anxiety drive your decisions.

  • No, love. While heartbreak is often the catalyst that forces you to stop running from your anxiety, I work with women navigating all kinds of transitions where anxiety shows up: career changes, relocations, identity shifts, breaking toxic patterns, and building secure, aligned lives. Whether it's relationship anxiety, existential anxiety, or the fear that's been keeping you stuck, the deeper work is about healing your anxiety and restarting over in all areas of life from a grounded, secure place.

  • That's exactly when coaching is most valuable. We'll get to the root of your anxiety, understanding why you're afraid to leave, where the guilt is coming from, what your nervous system needs, create clarity around what you actually want (not what anxiety thinks is safe), work through the fear, and help you make a decision that honours your truth and your secure self.

  • You'll notice shifts within the first few sessions, your nervous system will calm, you'll feel less reactionary, and clarity will start to emerge. Real transformation happens over time as we rewire the deep anxiety patterns and build genuine security. Most women report feeling noticeably more grounded and confident within 4-6 weeks, and by the end of our time together, they're making decisions from security instead of fear.

  • I get it, anxiety often shows up as doubt about commitment. Here's what I know: transformation requires consistency. You can't rewire anxiety patterns in a few sessions, and jumping between different approaches often keeps you stuck. If 3-6 months feels too long, that's worth exploring, is it a real logistical concern, or is anxiety telling you that you don't deserve this investment in yourself? Let's talk about it on a clarity call.

  • Not for ongoing 1-1 coaching, because one-off sessions don't create the container needed to rewire anxiety patterns and build lasting security. However, I do offer a free 30-minute clarity call to help you determine which program is right for you, and single sessions are available within my group programs.

  • By the end of our time together, you'll have tools, insights, and most importantly, a nervous system that's learned to self-regulate and a mind that trusts itself again. The goal is for you to feel secure and empowered to navigate life on your own. You'll always have access to the resources and tools we've created together, and you're welcome to reach out if you need a tune-up or support during a major transition.

  • No problem at all! We work via Googlemeet, so you can join from anywhere. We'll schedule sessions at a time that works for both of us, and you'll have access to all recordings and resources so you can review them whenever it suits your schedule

Frequently Asked Questions

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