About me
Hi, I'm Ell, and I've walked the anxious, spiral-inducing path you're on right now. After ending my ten-year relationship and calling off my wedding, I discovered the real problem wasn't heartbreak, it was my anxious attachment. I was scanning for signs they were pulling away, replaying every conversation, abandoning my needs to keep them close, cycling between clingy and withdrawn. I questioned everything: who was I without this person? Would I ever feel secure? Could I trust myself?
But here's what changed everything: I realised the key to moving forward wasn't processing the past, it was rewiring my nervous system, building unshakeable emotional safety from within, and finally becoming securely attached. That's when everything shifted.
My journey of restarting over
I'm no stranger to letting go and beginning again:
Ended a 10-year relationship and called off my wedding
Left another 3-year relationship when I knew it wasn't aligned
Walked away from my corporate career after 10+ years
Moved countries and became a digital nomad
Built new businesses and communities from scratch
Learned to trust myself through every uncertain transition
Each restart taught me something invaluable: You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to trust that you're worthy of the life you're building.
Why I do
this work
Therapy was essential for me, but what was completely missing, what nobody explained to me was how my anxious attachment was driving all my pain. Nobody helped me understand my nervous system's desperate need for reassurance, or taught me how to build emotional safety from within instead of constantly seeking it from someone else. That's what I now bring to you: the nervous system healing, attachment rewiring, and daily support that helps you break the anxious cycle once and for all.
That's why I created the Heal Your Anxious Attachment course: to give women the practical tools, daily structure, and compassionate guidance to become securely attached from the inside out. You don't need fixing, your nervous system just learned love wasn't safe. What you need is someone to help you rewire that belief. And that's exactly what my work does.
My approach
My work is laser-focused on anxious attachment healing. I blend nervous system regulation, attachment pattern awareness, and emotional safety building delivered in a way that's practical, gentle, and honest. I believe healing from anxious attachment should be:
Doable: daily lessons that rewire your patterns in real time.
Honest: naming the exact anxious behaviours (scanning, abandoning yourself, reassurance-seeking, spiraling) so you can finally understand what's happening.
Empowering: because secure attachment isn't something you achieve, it's something you become, from the inside out.
My background
I'm an ICF-trained coach with deep study in attachment theory, nervous system healing, and somatic work. But my greatest expertise comes from lived experience: navigating my own anxious attachment patterns, understanding my nervous system's triggers, and learning how to become securely attached from the inside out.
Before this, I built businesses and communities globally, but nothing has felt more meaningful than helping anxiously attached women like you stop abandoning themselves and start becoming their own secure base.
Beyond the work
When I'm not helping you rewire your nervous system or recording my podcast, you'll find me ocean swimming, journalling, or exploring the world with a matcha in hand. I believe healing from anxious attachment doesn't have to feel heavy or lonely, it can be honest, freeing, and even humorous as you finally start feeling secure in your own skin. So if you're ready to stop the anxious spiral and become securely attached, I'd love to walk beside you for the next 30 days.